Friday, October 13, 2017

Why "I Love You" Makes a Difference

Well it’s been over a month or so of intense physiotherapy and I am seeing some improvements with my pain levels, not to mention my flexibility. Strength, well that ranges from day to day. Sometimes I can easily open up a jar and other times “Bill, can you come please help open this!”  Side note: one of the best presents Bill ever got me for the kitchen: This gadget rocks when i'm solo and no one is around to assist me: Easy Twist Jar Opener

My personalized physiotherapy program was designed exactly for the issues that I asked for help with, along with problems that they saw when I did my assessments. I won’t go into a ton of detail on what I’m doing because it may not be what you are actually needing for your own recovery. I will though include some parts that I think are really helpful for everyone, but I would encourage you to book a consultation to assess your individual needs. 

For pelvic floor physiotherapy, you need to be comfortable with your physiotherapist. If you’re not, it’s going to be a clenching fiasco, which for most of us who suffer with tight pelvic floor muscles is a nightmare.  The internal exam and on-going internal “work” is really important. I did ask Catherine if she sees patients who forgo the internal part and she said yes, but when that is the case, there is only so much she can do. 

I’m past the point of being shy. I cannot count how many specialists have seen my tush and other intimate areas. It still is a bit of a source of trauma for me on an emotional level because of what I have been through, but in order to heal, those trigger points inside need to get some much needed tlc and external only does so much.  I am doing a lot of work at home because let’s not kid ourselves, therapy is expensive. My coverage has ran out for the year and so everything now is paying out of pocket.  This is why I am really happy with my time at Physiofit because they realize that we’re not all money trees. I have plenty of exercises to do daily at home between visits, so it’s kind of like Santa Claus knowing if you are awake or have been good or bad (not in the same creepy way though). The physio team knows if their clients have been diligent in the exercises or slacking.

Just some of the exercises that I do on a daily basis at home and also at Physiofit (amongst others that they have special equipment for). I get assessed and different exercises get put in and others get taken out, depending on how my body is responding and what they think I should work on next.

Now for the physiotherapy part that doesn’t involve any internal work, there is still a lot of parts of the body that I knew I had some pain but didn’t realize the difference when I started to activate those muscles properly.  Posture, a big one. I have “sitting syndrome” which I think a lot of us can relate to, whether we’ve worked in jobs that have us sitting a majority of the day or have been in bed-ridden situations where our muscles just become very weak from lack of movement.  My upper back is super duper tight, which is part of the area where I hold my stress, and so with the all the targeted exercises I have been doing, I can really feel a positive difference and Bill also uses his magical hands when i'm really achy. Incorporating everything and also making the time to book with my amazing RMT, Carrie, works well for me.

I recall my first time on the treadmill, which has been my warm-up, and I didn’t realize how much I swayed with my hips and shoulders. Being aware of these things helps to break the habit, although most of us probably don’t even realize that we’re walking incorrectly and causing so much extra pain.  The best part though is investing your time with a professional team and giving a whole stack of effort, it can get better.

Now I am sure you are wondering about my title of “I love you” and how that relates to this blog.  While positive words of affirmation are always encouraged, I am actually referring to a specific exercise that I have been taught a few times now called the I love you massage.  This helps with cramps, gas, constipation, and all those fun digestive symptoms. I have a video here to show you basically how it’s done. It may not work the first time for you, or the second, but keep at it. It’s simple to do and really helps to move things along. Some videos you will see show immediate relief, but from my own experiences, it can take a few hours to even overnight. It just depends on how congested my body is. 

A great video that shows how the technique is done.

I am doing a lot of other things along with physiotherapy, so i'll have another blog up on those details soon!

As always, thank you for the on-going support.

If you have any questions, feel free to connect with me over e-mail, leave a comment on my blog or find me on Facebook.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

A Middle Eastern Delight: Windsor Palace

Not all Middle Eastern restaurants are the same. We have an abundance of them here in Windsor and they all have their own unique style, whether it’s a totally different take on traditional hummus, or even how certain dishes are prepared.  This time, we tried a new family-owned place called Windsor Palace, on 755 Wyandotte St East, here in Windsor, Ontario, which was highly recommended by our friend Matt, who dined with us.

The menu is fairly large and so you can get everything from chicken and lamb to falafel plates and shawarma sandwiches.

To start with, we had this delicious half and half soup, which was a combination of lentils and chicken.  Very mild taste with a nice thick texture and so tasty.

Our appetizer plate consisted of a mix of hummus, tabouli, fattoush and baba ghanouj. Also to note, their pita bread is incredibly soft.  The worst is hard, stale tasting pita that you have to gnaw into and eat. We pretty much polished off most of the appetizer.

Instead of ordering individual meals, Matt suggested that we just split the BBQ chicken with biryani rice and curry.  A great choice and wow was there a lot of food! The chicken was perfectly cooked and I just love biryani rice.

The service was excellent and the prices are reasonable for the quantity and quality, so I really cannot say there is improvement needed in any way from this experience.

Windsor Palace is ideal for just about any occasion. It has a casual elegance and cozy atmosphere. The restaurant was rather busy when we arrived, so go early or make reservations!

They also have another new location out in Tecumseh at 12 Amy Croft Drive, which I am certain will make the residents of Tecumseh very happy.

Oh and we are currently scoping out spots for the ideal place to host our wedding reception, so I think we are definitely keeping this one in mind!

Have you been here before? Did you like it, loathe it? Tell me about YOUR experience!

Make sure to "like" Windsor Palace on Facebook!

Windsor Palace gets 4/4 Muse's.
*All photos taken by me. Please ask permission if you wish to use any, as it's the right thing to do!

Monday, October 9, 2017

Thanksgiving Gratitude

It doesn't matter if you're eating a lavish turkey dinner or simply Kraft Dinner out of the pot, the fact that you are eating something should warrant a moment of gratitude.

If there is someone in your life that you can call up to talk to, count your blessings.

If you're able to be cozy and warm in bed, even if someone is stealing the covers, you're still way ahead of the game. I could go on and on, but you get the point.

It will always be those simple things that enrich our lives and keep us grounded.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Saturday, October 7, 2017

Get Your Tickets To Windsor King Fest!

Mark your calendars you Hound Dogs!  ;)

Windsor King Fest is coming and you don't want to miss out on any of these incredible shows Nov 3-5th, 2017!

Tickets are available online at:

Pick up the phone and call to reserve your tickets: 226-783-5069

Make sure to share this blog with all your family and friends!

Friday, October 6, 2017


“We are meant to move” echoes through my head every day. After starting  physiotherapy at Physiofit, I realize the importance of posture and movement on a daily basis. No matter how much you can do, some sort of movement is better than being completely sedentary.

Although I struggle a great deal with health anxiety, I am always reminded not to always take life too seriously. Life is full of uncertainty and we cannot control everything. It’s a tough pill to swallow. The more we try and control the uncontrollable, the worse our bodies and minds become. We get into a perpetual state of fear. It is true that good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people. I think a prime example is the Las Vegas tragedy. Were the innocent people at the wrong place at the wrong time? Maybe...but still, many people will continue to travel there and even stay at the hotel, not really even thinking twice about it. Does that mean they don’t care? Of course not, it just means that these events do not dictate their happiness. I know getting in that mind frame is easier said than done, trust me, but let’s just focus on today because we have minimal control over what happens tomorrow.

I compiled my own little ABC pain survival note that I hope some may find helpful.  It has some of my quirky side in there and I tried to address aspects of physical, emotional and spiritual distress.

You can print this out for a daily reminder, keep it in your email folder or phone. Feel free to share  this post too!


Accept responsibility. This is a big one, as we often blame external factors which make us even more depressed.

Believe in yourself.  I know...a bunch of new-age mumbo-jumbo, but feeling good about yourself can really boost your serotonin levels, which greatly affects mood. 

Calm down.  Many of us who battle with pain tend to panic a lot and a few deep breaths can make a world of difference. As Drew Barrymore said, in the film Ever After, "Just Breathe."

De-clutter.  Whether it’s one room at a time, get rid of stuff you don’t need. Sell, donate, give to friends. Surrounding yourself with clutter keeps you stuck. It's like having peanut butter stuck to the roof of your mouth permanently.

Engage in meaningful friendships. I think this speaks for itself. If you have a friend who always calls you for help, but never checks in to see how you’re doing, probably best to let that person go. Yes, we all lead busy lives, but a simple “hey i’m thinking of ya” goes a long way. 

F*ck it!  Yep, sometimes it’s okay to admit defeat and throw your covers over your head and call it a day.

Get away from technology. It's tough, but well worth it to just put your electronics aside for even a few hours. Establish a routine to close down your devices. Unless you have a job that requires you to be constantly connected (if so, maybe it's time to consider a career switch if that is a main stressor for you) no one is going to hate you for missing a "like" on a post about their dinner foodie pic or newest outfit. If they do, you better get a new circle of friends.

Hold on. Whether you’re an amateur cook or like to dabble in photography, find time to do something you are passionate about, so you can hold onto those memories.

Invest. I’m not talking about stocks, but your own well-being. Get that check-up that you've been putting off for months, treat yourself to a therapeutic massage.

Jump around.  Again, movement people!

Kill time. When you’re in pain, it feels like a single day can just drag on. Stop looking at the clock and maybe play a few rounds of Candy Crush. By the time you know it, it will be night time. That game is SO addictive!

Laugh.  Often we cry too much, so how about a few good laughs, eh?

Make a sandwich. Seems odd, I know, but your body may be reacting because its simply hungry.

Naked time.  Any form of intimacy can benefit us, from a simple snuggle to orgasmic pleasure.

Observe your surroundings. Being mindful can help ease stress and won't leave you in a state of chaos and confusion.

Praise yourself. Not everything can get done in a day when you’re unwell. Your to-do list may be a mile long but accomplishing just one thing can feel very rewarding. (Thanks Carrie for this tip!)

Quit it.  Don’t beat yourself up over things that are totally out of your control.

Relax. Sometimes our bodies are just screaming for us to RELAX. Frankie knows.

Sleep.  The benefits are endless when you are able to have a good night’s rest. Zzzzz

Turn up the music! Play your favourite artist/band. Abba never put anyone in a bad mood.  

Understand this too shall pass. Wise words and very true.

Volunteer. One of the best feelings in the world is knowing that I am making a difference in someone’s life. I am proud to be part of  CMHA.  Whether it’s a weekly, monthly, or whenever you can commitment, give back to your community.

Wake up.  Yesterday sucked, but today is another day, right? Right.

X - plain yourself. None of us are mind-readers and brain-fog is damn real, so clear communication is essential.

Yes! You don’t have to always be a “yes man” but from time to time, say yes to a new experience.

Zip it.  We can all have mean streaks, but words can really sting. Sometimes, especially if you know someone is going through a really rough patch, instead of lashing out, walk away and enjoy the silence.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Million Dollar Quartet at Caesars Windsor

Friday night, I took Bill's mom to see Million Dollar Quartet! We had a fun night out together, so thank you Caesars Windsor!

My thoughts on the show: Jerry Lee Lewis and Johnny Cash were top notch in my view. Carl Perkins was decent. Elvis though....while he had the moves, his voice was odd. Really high-pitched and not very "Elvisy" if you know what I mean. I realize this was back in the starting days of his career, but I didn't feel it at all. All I could keep thinking was "damn, my friend Norm Ackland Jr. (he is an ETA - Elvis Tribute Artist) should have been in this role!" Elvis' girlfriend Dyanne was quite the head-turner with her seductive charm and her sultry vocals during Fever was a nice touch, but I didn't particularly like her voice overall. Lastly, Sam Phillips (the man who initially discovered and launched the early careers of the guys, as well as the founder of Sun Records), he was alright. Definitely had that sleazy record producer vibe down. ;)

Anyhow, still entertaining performance to hear a lot of classic songs to bop along to like Walk The Line, Great Balls of Fire, That's Alright, Brown-Eyed Handsome Man, See You Later Alligator and more!

You can check out all the photos on the Caesars Windsor Facebook page, as there was absolutely no photography/videos allowed!

Saturday, September 30, 2017

Goodbye Chapped Lips with Satya Organic Skincare

I got this free Satya Organic Skin Care at a perfect time since my lips have been extremely chapped and dry without relief from any of my usual go-to lip balms.  The ingredients, particularly the sweet almond oil and colloidal oatmeal were very soothing.  This also left a nice sheen on my lips that didn't irritate or dry them out further.  The Eczema cream is said to be gentle enough to be used for all over the face and body and not just for eczema, but other ailments too, including those itchy bug bites that I think we all have gotten!

 I do like the cute sliding travel-size tin that it comes in, but the only negative for me is that I don't like having to use my finger to apply the product. For hygienic reasons, I would have liked to see more thought put into this issue, so I used a q-tip which seems to be the best way to apply on the skin for this type of product. 

With a few tweaks, I think this would be a good product to add to your skincare routine! Thanks Satya and Social Nature! #gotitfree

Satya Organic Skincare gets 3/4 Muse's 

Saturday, September 23, 2017

Healthy Yet Fiery Start To Autumn

I made this delicious vegetable dish today that I wanted to share with my readers.

It has chopped kale, broccoli, zucchini, roasted sweet potatoes, onions and peppers. I sauteed everything in a pan with a few squeezes of fresh lemon (i'm kind of on a lemon kick right now), and then topped with some sunflower seeds. I also added a bit of balsamic dressing afterwards and it was really tasty!

I was ready to snap a photo when I started to hear loud bangs, followed by people screaming outside. THIS was actually what was going on about a block away. A shed caught on fire somehow and it just escalated from there. Thankfully it seems like the fire department has things under control, so i'm back in the house, safe and sound. *breathe*

Saturday fire on Balfour St.

Back to my veggie bowl...

What are your favourite veggies for this season? :)

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

CMHA/Arts & Cultural Alliance: Healing The Creative Soul

Bill and I share a lot of "firsts" together and I wanted to post about attending our first art class together!  It was very therapeutic and a really great way to showcase our individual artistic talents.

Our community has a lot of excellent workshops that I didn't even know about and it seems like these events are very well-attended.  They even have ones geared for specific age demographics.

A wonderful resource for mental health: Canadian Mental Health Association

Click the link to see when the next workshop takes place: Arts & Cultural Alliance of Windsor

The teacher showing us what we would be painting

Having fun before class started
All supplies were provided too!

Okay so I started off following instructions, and then somehow I felt inspired to create my own piece of work and just rolled with it. No one minded and I received a lot of compliments afterwards.

My finished painting. 
Bill is quite the artist! Beautiful work. 

We have both of these paintings hung up upstairs in the hallway. :)

Sunday, September 17, 2017

9 Year Anniversary at La Contessa Ristorante

We had the most wonderfully romantic dinner last night at a new place on 780 Erie Street East that we've never been to before called  La Contessa Ristorante.

To be honest, it was not our first choice. We tried several other restaurants, but the wait times were too long. Strolling along, we saw the sign and popped our heads into La Contessa to view the menu. The restaurant looked elegant and a perfect place for us to have a quiet celebration.

As you can see, there is a lot of choices on the menu, depending on what you're in the mood for.

The staff were very attentive, prices were reasonable, and our meals were delicious! Oh and the excellent timing of water-refills was noted and very much appreciated, as Bill was quite thirsty after an earlier gig during the day! :)

We started out with a bruschetta appetizer. So flavourful!

Bill was a bit adventurous and had the Veal Saltimbocca (sauteed veal in a white wine sauce and topped with imported prosciutto and melted mozzarella cheese) which he absolutely loved!

I was a bit more conservative and had a large mixed green salad with grilled chicken and their homemade dressing.

For dessert, the moment my ears hear "we have tiramisu" that's it. Yes, I have been doing the dairy-free regime, but I splurged and had a few bites of this amazing dessert that perfectly finished off our meal.  So far this morning, I am not having any issues.

Although this was not our first choice last night, i'm happy that we dined here. It would certainly be a place that we would go back to on another special occasion and highly recommend to others.

Make sure to "like" La Contessa Ristorante on Facebook!

*All photos were taken by me. If you wish to use any of them, please contact me for permission. It's the right thing to do. :)

La Contessa Ristorante gets 4/4 Muse's!